There are many lessons on this story of how I denied her when it mattered most. I hope you learn from it as you read.
When I wanted to enter into this relationship I asked myself some questions and I was able to give myself a befitting answer to those questions, this was what made me to proceed without looking behind.
I asked her out and she accepted, we started the journey and I must say, it was very awesome but we were lacking something and I couldn’t discover it until it was very late.
As a courageous man that i have always been, i did not let her go instead I decided to play along, i made up my mind to bear whatever risks or pleasure that will come out of it.
Can a relationship stand firm without understanding? The truth is that no relationship will make it to the crest without proper understanding. But trust me, this did not stop the juice in our relationship to stop flowing. How we survived it was what I can’t tell.
All relationship demands sacrifice, this will strengthen the power of the relationship but in our own, nobody cares about that, sometimes I asked myself what kind of relationship is this but the sweetness of her face and her shining set of teeth could not let me go.
I was not benefiting anything from this relationship either was she, but what kept us going was undescribable.
Separation in relationship ignite the fire that has turned to ash to start burning again, it makes the relationship to last long because when you separate, both parties will know their faults and ask each other for forgiveness but in our relationship, nothing like that happened.
I began to ask questions to those that have passed through that path, I attended classes just to make sure I make it work but all to no avail.
We both went for relationship counseling but within a short of time after that, we saw ourselves saying yes to what we have said no to.
The day I denied her was like the day Peter denied Jesus. I did not know that I have done something like that until I started looking for her but she was nowhere to be found.
We were coming back from the game center that Saturday morning when we were blocked by three heavily built men, I was shocked when I saw them, their faces were not friendly and I was surprised what the matter was, after a lot of staring, one of them uttered and said who was she to you?
What kind of question was that, don’t you have eyes to have noticed that she is my girlfriend? I soliloquize!. Are you referring to her? I questioned but no answer was given to me.
I was so scared, I could not stand like a man and defend her, I could not even face those men. Could it be that am not man enough to protect who I called my woman? She will not be happy with me, who will it be? I put myself in her shoe. But I could not do otherwise, besides they were three in number and am the only one standing. I hoped she would understand. All these were running on my head but I did not waste much time before I gave them the answer.
She was just a friend. Just a friend! she asked in a shock. I tried to let her understand the situation but she was so disappointed in me, she could not dream that I can deny her no matter what, but I did it to save our lives, those people were dangerous.
She felt bad and was so disappointed.
Hey, beloved one, what do you think am talking about!? My girlfriend?
Hahaha, no way, I can’t be talking about my girlfriend instead am talking about UNDERSTANDING YOUR PURPOSE.
From the beginning of this article you will notice that we are not relating the way we should, nothing is working out for us and that is what is happening to anyone who has found but yet does not understood what he/she has discovered.
Like I told us, the doctor does not have a say on this issue, it is just you and your mentor including the books you are reading, if not, you can’t understand it not to talk about working with it.
In the story above, I could not defend someone I have spent years with. You cannot be able to defend your purpose if you have not known what it is all about, hey, how can you defend what you don’t know, it is almost impossible, you can’t just do it.
Three muscular men stood at our faces, those men are the obstacles you are going to face in your voyage to achieve your final stage on your purpose, if you could not defeat these men, and deny your purpose as I did, you will start from the beginning which is the discovery.
You cannot know your office if you don’t understand WHY you are here on earth, don’t just start working when you don’t know your office, try as much as you can to find your office and start the work now.
It doesn’t matter how many people are against you and your purpose but if you truly understand what is inside of you, you will not get scared of any form of challenge that might befall you.
I complained that they were three in number but believe me if I were able to understand the power in me, it doesn’t matter how many they were and what they were coming with, I would have defended my purpose and defeated my enemies.
There are many lessons on this story, try and find others.
I’m writing to inspire you.
I’m writing to empower you.
I’m writing to encourage you.
I’m Michael c. Samuel.
An inspirational writer.